Comments on: A Delicate Balance: Writing and the Day Job http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:11:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: KelseyBrowning http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-995 KelseyBrowning Sat, 08 Aug 2009 12:38:52 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-995 Jeannie - We wouldn't be here if not for you! The professional look of the RU site catches people's attention and communicates that we're serious about this blog. No doubt, it takes some work, but I wouldn't change a thing about this experience. Jeannie, you'll always be one of the "RU gals!" K- Jeannie -

We wouldn’t be here if not for you! The professional look of the RU site catches people’s attention and communicates that we’re serious about this blog. No doubt, it takes some work, but I wouldn’t change a thing about this experience.

Jeannie, you’ll always be one of the “RU gals!”
K-

]]> By: Victoria Gray http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-991 Victoria Gray Fri, 07 Aug 2009 20:20:45 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-991 Jeannie, Like you, my hubby is a morning person and I'm a night owl...1 a.m. for me, too, even when I'm working...so, nights are wonderful for me. I'm fortunate now that I seldom have to bring teaching work home with me. I'm no longer in the classroom - I'm a school librarian, which means I teach technology, research and literature study classes and supervise the library, but don't have to worry about homework and grades...I'm so blessed with that! I would have a hard time if I worked at home...the potential for that "bleed" you described is huge. Thanks for sharing your experiences :) Jeannie,
Like you, my hubby is a morning person and I’m a night owl…1 a.m. for me, too, even when I’m working…so, nights are wonderful for me. I’m fortunate now that I seldom have to bring teaching work home with me. I’m no longer in the classroom – I’m a school librarian, which means I teach technology, research and literature study classes and supervise the library, but don’t have to worry about homework and grades…I’m so blessed with that! I would have a hard time if I worked at home…the potential for that “bleed” you described is huge.
Thanks for sharing your experiences :)

]]> By: Jeannie Ruesch http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-990 Jeannie Ruesch Fri, 07 Aug 2009 19:02:40 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-990 I also wanted to add my own comment to say thanks to the Romance U ladies!! Romance University is a fabulous place - I love the interviews, the information they offer... I remember when they contacted me about doing the website thinking what a terrific idea it was. They've done such a wonderful job with the content, I love the male perspective series especially and I have yet to read an article I haven't learned something or pulled something new from. I'm so happy to work with them, and I can't toot the horn of this site enough!!! :) I also wanted to add my own comment to say thanks to the Romance U ladies!!

Romance University is a fabulous place – I love the interviews, the information they offer… I remember when they contacted me about doing the website thinking what a terrific idea it was. They’ve done such a wonderful job with the content, I love the male perspective series especially and I have yet to read an article I haven’t learned something or pulled something new from. I’m so happy to work with them, and I can’t toot the horn of this site enough!!! :)

]]> By: Jeannie Ruesch http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-989 Jeannie Ruesch Fri, 07 Aug 2009 19:01:28 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-989 Hi Beth!! Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I think somewhere in my head, I had it that I had to be on top of things and balanced every single day. But balance really is about priorities, knowing how to let go of things and how to give yourself permission to just do the best you can. Every day is different. I struggle with being in the moment, not thinking about what I have to do two hours ahead. It helps to keep myself less stressed. And knowing my limits has been HUGE -- it's been a lesson I've definitely learned this year. Hi Beth!! Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I think somewhere in my head, I had it that I had to be on top of things and balanced every single day. But balance really is about priorities, knowing how to let go of things and how to give yourself permission to just do the best you can. Every day is different. I struggle with being in the moment, not thinking about what I have to do two hours ahead. It helps to keep myself less stressed. And knowing my limits has been HUGE — it’s been a lesson I’ve definitely learned this year.

]]> By: Jeannie Ruesch http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-988 Jeannie Ruesch Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:54:45 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-988 *waving at Jordan** Hi there! So great to see you here, and I can toot the horn of my CPs, too. In fact, it's something I'd add to the list of "must haves" in order to keep life balanced and working. A CP or CP group that gives you exactly what you need, on both aspects. I love the comments I get from Jordan and our CP group, and as well I love reading their work and editing because I always learn something new. With the CPs I have now, I have a fabulous balance -- people who tell me when yes, it is indeed garbage and what the h-e-double L was I thinking, and who also tell me when they love it. Now I have to get my butt in gear and get my CPs work back to them... LOL (It's on the list I swear!!) *waving at Jordan** Hi there! So great to see you here, and I can toot the horn of my CPs, too. In fact, it’s something I’d add to the list of “must haves” in order to keep life balanced and working. A CP or CP group that gives you exactly what you need, on both aspects. I love the comments I get from Jordan and our CP group, and as well I love reading their work and editing because I always learn something new.

With the CPs I have now, I have a fabulous balance — people who tell me when yes, it is indeed garbage and what the h-e-double L was I thinking, and who also tell me when they love it. Now I have to get my butt in gear and get my CPs work back to them… LOL (It’s on the list I swear!!)

]]> By: Beth C. http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-987 Beth C. Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:12:53 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-987 Just wanted to say I stopped by and love your article. I have to say I'm still struggling with a balance of life and writing. Can't wait for your next book. Just wanted to say I stopped by and love your article. I have to say I’m still struggling with a balance of life and writing. Can’t wait for your next book.

]]> By: Jordan McCollum http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-986 Jordan McCollum Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:04:46 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-986 Woot! I'm just excited to see my fantastic critique partner blogging here. Great interview, Jeannie. She's a fantastic writer (and editor), folks! I've only been working with her for a few months and I'm really impressed with the quality and quantity of her work over that time. Thanks, Jeannie! Woot! I’m just excited to see my fantastic critique partner blogging here. Great interview, Jeannie.

She’s a fantastic writer (and editor), folks! I’ve only been working with her for a few months and I’m really impressed with the quality and quantity of her work over that time.

Thanks, Jeannie!

]]> By: Jeannie Ruesch http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-985 Jeannie Ruesch Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:59:27 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-985 Hi Victoria, I understand what you mean about focusing on your writing while your husband is away! That's great that you have that time and more that you treasure and use it. :) My husband is a morning person - he's up before sunlight and out the door as the sun comes up to get to work. (He drives 3 hours a day in commute, if traffic is mild.) And I am a nightowl -- 1am is a normal bedtime for me. So there's often nights when everyone else is asleep and I have quiet time with my computer. With a teaching job, do you bring your work home with you? (grading papers, etc) I actually found it easier to split my time when I had a full time job working for someone else. Working for myself, at home, makes it hard to separate the elements and work time is always bleeding into everything else. Hi Victoria, I understand what you mean about focusing on your writing while your husband is away! That’s great that you have that time and more that you treasure and use it. :)

My husband is a morning person – he’s up before sunlight and out the door as the sun comes up to get to work. (He drives 3 hours a day in commute, if traffic is mild.) And I am a nightowl — 1am is a normal bedtime for me. So there’s often nights when everyone else is asleep and I have quiet time with my computer.

With a teaching job, do you bring your work home with you? (grading papers, etc) I actually found it easier to split my time when I had a full time job working for someone else. Working for myself, at home, makes it hard to separate the elements and work time is always bleeding into everything else.

]]> By: Jeannie Ruesch http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-984 Jeannie Ruesch Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:54:41 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-984 Hi Mona! Thanks for visiting today. I had to laugh...Remaining calm at times is a facade. LOL My brain tends to whirl about, running through To Do lists and WIPs and future books and ideas and the other ten million things I want to do on a constant basis. My husband says he can always tell when my brain is on overload -- I apparently get a specific look on my face, fingers start taping like I'm playing the piano and calm is the last word he uses to describe me. LOL But I'm a believer that a lot of "state of mind" states are a choice...sometimes you have to move yourself into a state of mind. Going to sleep at night is a conscious effort at shutting down my brain. My hubby can fall asleep in three seconds flat, but it takes me at least a half hour and I have been known to count sheep many a time. Stupid brain. :) Hi Mona! Thanks for visiting today. I had to laugh…Remaining calm at times is a facade. LOL My brain tends to whirl about, running through To Do lists and WIPs and future books and ideas and the other ten million things I want to do on a constant basis. My husband says he can always tell when my brain is on overload — I apparently get a specific look on my face, fingers start taping like I’m playing the piano and calm is the last word he uses to describe me. LOL

But I’m a believer that a lot of “state of mind” states are a choice…sometimes you have to move yourself into a state of mind. Going to sleep at night is a conscious effort at shutting down my brain. My hubby can fall asleep in three seconds flat, but it takes me at least a half hour and I have been known to count sheep many a time. Stupid brain. :)

]]> By: Jeannie Ruesch http://romanceuniversity.org/2009/08/07/a-delicate-balance-writing-and-the-day-job/comment-page-1/#comment-983 Jeannie Ruesch Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:49:25 +0000 http://romanceuniversity.org/?p=1107#comment-983 Hi Carrie, Thank you -- I hope you find the notebook useful. I have plans for more versions eventually (it's on the To do list lol) in both a perfect bound book and a OneNote version (which is where I actually use the info) as well as a few other similar projects. (Did I mention my To Do list is about 10 pages long?) I'm so thrilled with the response I've received from it, and glad it's helping writers stay on track. :) Three jobs plus writing and a husband is a SERIOUS amount of effort! LOL I understand what you mean completely about "go, go, go". Even though all of my work related is mostly at my desk, it's a constant race to see how much I can finish in one day. But I'm also getting better about learning my limits, learning when I need to back off and actually say "no" to things. It's never easy to do that, but it's sometimes necessary for your sanity. And 500+ pictures? Oh good heaven, I'd say kill me now. LOL Hi Carrie, Thank you — I hope you find the notebook useful. I have plans for more versions eventually (it’s on the To do list lol) in both a perfect bound book and a OneNote version (which is where I actually use the info) as well as a few other similar projects. (Did I mention my To Do list is about 10 pages long?) I’m so thrilled with the response I’ve received from it, and glad it’s helping writers stay on track. :)

Three jobs plus writing and a husband is a SERIOUS amount of effort! LOL I understand what you mean completely about “go, go, go”. Even though all of my work related is mostly at my desk, it’s a constant race to see how much I can finish in one day.

But I’m also getting better about learning my limits, learning when I need to back off and actually say “no” to things. It’s never easy to do that, but it’s sometimes necessary for your sanity.

And 500+ pictures? Oh good heaven, I’d say kill me now. LOL

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