Comments on: The Making of a Bad Boy

By: mike schwartzman

mike schwartzman — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:55:05 +0000

howdy
i responded via email
please forward it as it didnt post here
thanx
mike

By: mike schwartzman

mike schwartzman — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:52:57 +0000

howdy
i responded & it failed to post
please forward it for me
thanx mike

By: mike schwartzman

mike schwartzman — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:03:34 +0000

howdy
my response via email did not post here
maybe you could forward it for me
thanx
mike

By: Laurie London

Laurie London — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 03:33:43 +0000

Thanks, Mike, for sharing your story with us. The mother in me wants to hold that 5 year old boy in my arms and tell him that it’s not his fault. That he’s perfect and wonderful and that it’s my fault for not protecting him. The fiction writer in me wants to grab a baseball bat and pay that guy a visit.

Are you saying that the decision to change your destructive ways had to come from inside? Other than the threat of going back to prison, was there anything external that caused you to look inward, making you decide you had enough?

Thinking purely as a romance writer, what would a bad boy need in a woman to help him through this process of changing his bad boy ways?

Thanks again for being brave enough to share your story with us.

By: Saralee

Saralee — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:53:58 +0000

Thanks for sharing part of your story, Mike. I am so glad you found a way to move beyond the mess.

Was there a person you met whose example showed you a better way to be? Or was this discovery the result of self-reflection? Did you write down your thoughts and impressions?

A woman gave a speech to our writer’s group a couple of years ago, and she said that writing her life’s story in a journal helped her get her head straight during her seven years in prison.

Reflection, writing, observing others–I suppose there are many different ways for people to come to the realization that they need to turn their life around–and that they have the power to make such a change.

But it would be interesting to know how you did it. And I wonder if you think that other people could do the same.

By: Adrienne Giordano

Adrienne Giordano — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:11:27 +0000

Hi, Mike. Thank you for being here. I admire your willingness to let us dig around in your personal life, but more importantly to help others move onto a better path.

By: mike schwartzman

mike schwartzman — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:15:32 +0000

howdy & good morning carrie
my parents have passed over. a long story describes my attempts
to have good relations with them both, they were both damaged and
not able to have good relations with others in my opinion. i settled for
they did the best they could. i then went about the business of
forgiving and being the best son i could. when i recognised that my
stuff was so glaring that most other people could not get passed that
to get to there stuff i let it go.

my sister nora is the best sister in the world! she has her stuff and i
have mine and yet we can be there for each other.

my brother fits into the mold with my folks and i no longer have
anything to do with making contact with him. i have forgiven him
and me.

By: mike schwartzman

mike schwartzman — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:04:35 +0000

howdy & good morning
life offers miracles constantly. the change was i responded this time.
nothing comes to me other than that. i began to feel the price tag
attached to what i was doing. i was tired of all the shit i was getting
living the way i was living. i didnt do anything to bring it on.

By: mike schwartzman

mike schwartzman — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:58:22 +0000

howdy
the muthafucker you met was between 15 & 20 years clean & on a path
of recovery. so he was not anywhere near as aggresive. he was still
willing to fight to the death about every little thing. he had little or no concern
for others feelings or reactions. i coined a phrase “horray for me and fuck
you”. that covers most of the ?. his usefullness in mens work was his no
bullshit attitude and directness.

my experiences with women is a book all by itself! but thanks.

mike

howdy and good morning tracey
on the surface an easy ? ill answer it as 2 ?s
yes i have a women in my life who knows “somewhat” the story of my
life. right now she is too busy with her stuff to have my back.
my sister is the best sister in the world!!!

By: carrie

carrie — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:09:54 +0000

Morning Mike…

Are your parents still alive and do you have any type of relationship with them at all? or the rest of your family?

thanks for the posting with us today…..

carrie