Women constantly find fault with our physical attributes, from our frizzy hair to our unpainted toenails. Can you imagine a man ever asking “Does this make my butt look big?” Me neither. Women often assume we know what men find (un)attractive, but how accurate are we in those assessments? Today, our RU Man Panel will tell us what they care about and what they don’t when it comes to women’s bodies.

Serving on today’s Man Panel are: Rob, age 38; Ethan, age 21; Jack, age 50-something; Trace, age 40.

NOTE: Our guys had a lot to say on this topic, so today we’re going to stay above the waist. Join us on January 6 as we head into third base territory.

Hair

Rob    

Turn-on: Long and curly

Turn-off: Sloppy

Trace

Turn-on: Long or short. Dark is my first choice and well kept is the key.

Turn-off: Messy, unhealthy or just on someone that doesn’t care that much.

Jack

Turn-on: I’m partial to blonde, but long or short, pony tailed or braided makes little difference to me. I’m turned on by a hair style that fits the personality and features of the woman. Is she sophisticated, intelligent, playful, or tom-boyish? Is she all of these things at different times? A woman’s choice of hair style should complement her personality and if she can pull off a different look to fit the mood that’s a bigger turn on.

Turn-off: Hair that looks like it hasn’t been washed or cared for. Hair that’s over styled or over colored.

Ethan 

Turn-on: I like being able to play with hair. So anything that’s touchable. It doesn’t really matter whether it’s curly straight just as long as it’s touchable. Some of the times I find my girlfriend most attractive is when she has her hair up in a pony tail just lounging around in sweats and a t-shirt, no effort necessary.

Turn-off: Greasy hair and dandruff. Also, there are two hairstyles that should never be worn by anyone. The first is the bump. It’s awful. The second is the straight hair with straight bangs going across the forehead right above the eyes. Not attractive either. Oh, and super fake platinum blonde hair.

Eyes

Rob

Turn-on: Any two that looks good in her head

Turn-off: She looks like a mad scientist or cross-eyed

Trace

Turn-on: I like to see a sparkle in them, ones full of life.

Turn-off: Full of evil, anger, or without zeal for life.

Jack

Turn-on: Eyes that have flecks of colors mixed in with the primary color — very sexy. Eyes the color of a wolf’s, would be very sexy and very scary, but I guarantee men wouldn’t be able to look away. I would be remiss if I didn’t say that eyes that light up when a woman smiles is a turn-on and, last but not least, eyes that hint at a little mischievousness when accompanied with a smile are a turn-on.

Turn-off: I can’t think of one.

Ethan

Turn-on: Smiling with your eyes.

Turn-off: Clumpy eyelashes from too much mascara. Or creepy colored contact lenses

Lips/Mouth

Rob

Turn-on: Two lips and not so opinionated

Turn-off: No lips and very outspoken

Trace

Turn-on: I prefer lip stick on the lips and for them to be kissable. Other than that, no preference

Turn-off: One that talks too loud or talks too much.

Jack

Turn-on: Oh my god, there are so many jokes I could share right now, but I’ll remain focused. I like lips that are invitingly full with a mouth that is wide enough to soften the fullness. This might sound like double-talk but it’s not. Full puffy lips on a small mouth can make a woman look like she is always sucking on a lemon and thin lips on a wide mouth can make a woman look like the Grinch. Lips that are well proportioned and natural are a turn-on.

Turn-off: Lips that have been Botoxed; too much lipstick and lipstick that is too red or dark

Ethan

Turn-on: A bright smile behind kissable lips. Also I’ve always thought a lip ring was really hot.

Turn-off: Chapped lips, bad breath, yellow teeth, LIPSTICK ON YOUR TEETH. You don’t even need lipstick. Lip gloss or chapstick is sufficient.

Breasts

Rob

Turn-on: Two any size

Turn-off: Fake boobs

Trace

Turn-on: More so than the butt or legs. Like them just about any way they come

Turn-off: Nothing comes to mind.

Jack

Turn-on: Big, huge, ginormious — I thought I would get the answer that most women expected out of the way. Actually, I’ve never been captivated or enamored by large breasts. Like legs, lips and mouths breasts that are proportionate to the rest of the body are a good foundation for the “turn-on” breasts. Turn-ons are breast that are proportionately well shaped with a little poutiness (the nipple a little higher on the median line). The nipple is actually the biggest turn-on related to a woman’s breast. A nipple that is responsive to slight teasing touches or soft warm breath is a big turn-on. Please don’t make me describe “responsive”.

Turn-off: Women who think they have great beasts by virtue of their size and dress to show them off to the world.

Ethan

Turn-on: I’m definitely a boob man. There’s not really a particular size that I like, both petite and athletic or a more voluptuous and curvy can be incredibly sexy.

Turn-off: Big saggy boobs. But really, is that surprising? Oh, and here’s a little rule of thumb I use when deciding in my head if a girl is fat: if her stomach sticks out farther than her boobs, she’s fat. Otherwise, she’s just curvy. I realize that it gives petite girls a slight disadvantage, but hey, it is what it is.

RU crew, do you think the members of our Man Panel were completely honest? If you’re a woman, will their answers change how you view yourself? If you’re a man, are these guys on target with what you find attractive?

Please be sure to stop by Friday when agent Holly Root is here to talk about publishing contracts!

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