Thigh, Breast or Wing: What Turns Men On (and Off) – Part II
Today is a continuation of our Man Panel post from December 9, and we take out Man Panel into third base territory, below the waist. If you missed it, check out Part I to find out which of our guys are breast men…
Serving on today’s Man Panel are: Rob, age 38; Ethan, age 21; Jack, age 50-something; Trace, age 40.
Feet
Rob
Turn-on: Nice and soft well pampered and sexy
Turn-off: Banked up and cracked dry with a bad smell
Trace
Turn-off: I don’t even think about them.
Jack
Turn-on: I don’t have any foot turn-on’s or fetishes. Although, I do like the look of French manicures or is that a French pedicure?
Turn-off: More than six toes on one foot.
Ethan
Turn-on: Clean feet in open toed shoes with polished toe nails.
Turn-off: When a girl wears heels and doesn’t know how to walk in them or complains about how much her shoes hurt. That’s an intelligence test right there – if you know you’ll be doing a lot of walking, wear more comfortable shoes. Guys will not pity you if your feel hurt, they will just think you’re stupid.
Legs
Rob
Turn-on: Long lean legs with shapes and tone skinny ankles
Turn-off: Straight plain with cankles
Trace
Turn-on: Shaven
Turn-off: Unshaven
Jack
Turn-on: Long legs that are firm and slender. But a woman doesn’t have to be tall to have long legs. The legs just need to be proportioned a little longer that the upper torso on a woman of average height.
Turn-off: Second only to hairy armpits, legs on a woman that are hairier than mine are a definite a turn-off.
Ethan
Turn-on: Long slender legs mostly hidden behind a flowing dress in heels.
Turn-off: Spider veins and cellulite. And just because you don’t have skinny legs isn’t a turn off, but wearing a pair of daisy dukes with them is.
Butt
Rob
Turn-on: High and tight
Turn-off: Soft and sloppy or just flat
Trace
Turn-on: Covered just a little with sexy stuff from VS or Fred’s.
Turn-off: Too large or without any definition.
Jack
Turn-on: I might be sounding a little redundant, but firm and proportioned wins the turn-on challenge. The biggest turn-on however is the area where the lowest part of the back meets the very top of the butt and the lowest part of the butt meets the highest part of the leg. Those are great spots to explore with soft kisses and gentle — oops, sorry! I’m digressing.
Turn-off: Butts that should be de-emphasized because of their disproportioned size that are squeezed into clothing that makes you wonder, “what was that woman thinking when she decided to wear that?”
Ethan
Turn-on: A firm round butt. Big is ok, but I don’t want to be scared that you’ll knock over tables when you turn around.
Turn-off: When it’s just not there…going straight from legs to back with nothing in between. I also don’t like when girls wear clothes that don’t flatter themselves. I realize that there are many different shapes and sizes out there, but be smart when you put clothes on – there on some things depending on your body shape that you just should not wear.
Any Other Body Part(s)
Rob
Turn-on: Brains
Turn-off: Dumb as a stump
Trace
Turn-on: Brain, brain and the brain. May be the sexiest part of a woman. Now don’t get me wrong, these others are very important; and required at various degrees, but I love an intelligent woman.
Ethan
Turn-on: If they have the stomach for it, a belly button piercing is dead sexy. I also really like long slender necks and think that there’s just about nothing in the world sexier than bare shoulders.
Turn-off: Too much makeup, the downfall of many an almost-pretty woman.
I don’t know about our readers, but I was heartened to see that a couple of our guys are adamant about smart women being a turn-on! Now, you tell us, what do YOU think turns men on or off?
Be sure to join us Friday when Special guest Tracey Colson-Kensinger starts us off on the right track with her New Year inspiration.
Carrie Spencer, writing romantic comedy and goofy middle-grade, personifies her alter-ego - 
Okay RU crew –
Does Ethan crack you up as much as he does me? Seriously, this guy is a sweetheart, but his butt comment had me rolling.
Kelsey
Posted by KelseyBrowning | January 6, 2010, 9:05 ammorning all..
great post guys….*getting right to work on my Brazilian butt lift video”
=)
carrie
Posted by carrie | January 6, 2010, 9:08 amLOL, Carrie. The men definitely have their opinions on butts!
Great post, guys. Thanks for entertaining me.
Posted by Adrienne Giordano | January 6, 2010, 11:59 amThanks for the great post. Hmm…might have to work a bit on those butt lifts!
Posted by Kim Cresswell | January 6, 2010, 12:03 pmBack to long sweaters for me!
Posted by Tracey Devlyn | January 6, 2010, 1:27 pmIt is encouraging to hear you men take notice of clothing/hygiene/presentation (for women). How do you feel about personal style for men? What do guys really think about a man who takes the time and thought to be well-groomed and appropriately dressed? In historical romances, especially Regency era, the hero is almost always meticulous about his appearance. Can this realistically translate into the present, or is such a man generally perceived (by other men) as effete — or gay? I have always thought it was a shame that men so rarely seem to understand that “it is (at least as) important to look good as to feel good” if I may paraphrase Fernando Lamas. Thoughts???
Posted by Diane | January 6, 2010, 5:53 pmDiane -
I’ve asked one of our Man Panel members to stop by and take a look at your comment. Be patient, though
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Since I’m married to a guy who is most comfortable in cargo shorts and a t-shirt, I don’t know that I’m the best one to offer my comment. That being said, it’s great when he dresses up, but to me his sexiest look is jeans and a cool-looking long-sleeve shirt with leather flip-flops. Yes, I’ll take a guy in ripped Levis over a tux any day…Guess that tells you a little about me.
Thanks for stoppibg by!
Kelsey
Posted by KelseyBrowning | January 7, 2010, 12:23 amHello Diane,
I’m not the panel member that Kelsey asked to comment, but I do have an opinion. I couldn’t agree with you more; men of all ages should give thought to the presentation of their exterior selves. I care about my appearance because it’s a reflection of my character. Does that sound over the top or feminine to other men? It shouldn’t. I’ve witnessed so many guys in the business world become ineffective because of their lack of attention to their clothes, grooming or hygiene. Interacting with others socially or at work looking like crap (ungroomed, dirty, hung-over, clothes looking like they were slept in) creates the impression that you’re lazy, apathetic and indifferent. Does this sound a little harsh to some? If it does they may not be giving enough weight to the power of the “First Impression”. Men don’t have to look like they stepped out of a “GQ” magazine, but they should at least be clean and dressed to fit the occasion and dressed appropriate to their age. Does this opinion make me a “Dandy”?
Best Regards,
Jack
Posted by Jack Russell | January 7, 2010, 10:04 amJack,
I hope it doesn’t make you a “Dandy”! It sounds to me just what a real man ought to think. I hope good taste and appreciation of quality will never go out of style!
Thanks for the response,
Diane
Posted by Diane | January 7, 2010, 10:13 amWell, I figured the butt was important. But I didn’t see ‘chest’ mentioned. After all, that’d be a question when it came to the male anatomy.
Jack, I agree with how you take care of yourself with regards to hygiene and overall outward appearance is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. I’m not talking about the looks you were born with, ’cause we can’t all be Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt (and thank God for that!)
It’s all in how you present yourself. It’s like I tell my 18-year old son when his father scoffed at him for trimming/filing his nails. Women may not want to know the details, but they do want you to have clean/nice hands without jagged nails—ouch! Just as men would not want to know the details of a woman’s toiletry (i.e. hair in rollers), they do want you to look nice. Or am I wrong in this? And yes, the hero in romance novels are always groomed.
Julie
Posted by Julie Robinson | January 7, 2010, 10:48 pmHi Julie –
You can find the Man Panel’s opinions on everything “above the waist” in Part I of this post, and several of them are chest men
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And I don’t know whether to be heartened or saddened that I’ll still be having these “brush your teeth” and “clip your nails” conversations when my 10-year old son is 18. Mothering never ends, does it?
Kelsey
Posted by KelseyBrowning | January 7, 2010, 11:48 pmThanks Kelsey. I went back and read it. Actually, I could spend hours on this site going through old posts. Very informative.
I’ll be back.
Posted by Julie Robinson | January 9, 2010, 1:05 amGreat – we’re so glad you found us and that you’ll be back. Monday’s lecture with Carly Phillips and Laura Bradford is going to be dynamite!
Kels
Posted by KelseyBrowning | January 10, 2010, 11:28 pmSpeaking for myself and not the male race, my appearance is as important to me as the female I’m with. I can’t expect that of her if I’m not willing to do it myself. I think most guys want to walk into a room of people and when the “crowd” notices their lady they enjoy it. At least I do. But I can’t do that looking lazy or like a person who doesn’t care. That being said, I feel how I carry myself, dress, and appear on the outside is directly related to the inside. I’ve always thought a man who works in a messy office lives in a messy house.. That being said, I don’t see it as “gay” or anything of the sort when a guy is dress with “attitude” what every that attitude may be. For me, I spend more time in starched jeans, boots and long sleeve shirts than I do in slacks and dress shoes or short and tennis shoes. I have all of the above by the way. But I don’t like to see a sloppy, lazy, presentation. I doesn’t matter what the attire may be, so long as it’s clean and crisp and the proper hygiene is there. Heck, I’ve got a 10 yr old son that worries about matching clothes already so maybe I’ve got a little bit of an issue with this one. lol
Posted by Trace | January 9, 2010, 7:20 amTrace -
Now you have all the ladies thinking about those starched jeans!
Kels
Posted by KelseyBrowning | January 10, 2010, 11:30 pm