The few times that we have, it usually goes like this. —I finally bring up something that’s bothering me or making me feel badly about myself, that I want to fix, (say– he is referring to me as Lucy(from I love Lucy)- he means it as a term of endearment, I’m receiving it as a critisism.) He takes offense to my bringing it up. Saying – “Fine, I guess I’m just an A#@$%S,” we get off subject, now we are both unhappy. When all i wanted was him to stop calling me lucy! It seems once your in the argueing frame of mind, you start argueing about semantics and nothing is accomplished so we try not to go there.

Solution- I try not to bring anything up and just swallow the things that bother me.

Question do all men take offense or take it as a personal threat if you ask them to change something?

P.S. Love this guy to pieces and he does end up changing but the process is painful so I’ve always got to ask myself firsrt if the change is worth the battle.

Thanks, Wayne!
K-

Great post!

Thanks for sharing! One thing I find hard is I tend to portray the “victim” in an argument and can clearly see this is unfair to my poor husband, who is a pretty laid back guy. I need to have a better handle on the “poor me attitude”. Any advise??

great post…thanks! a lot of times an argument will bring up other past arguments….is there any way to keep an argument “on track”?

carrie