I appreciate your quest. I (after many attempts at understanding men and the way they think/act/love) am coming to the conclusion that men and women actually do think differently about love/relationships. The strange thing is, both men and women have, for pretty much all of recorded history, expended enormous energy pursuing this ephemeral goal of “love” without ever coming to a solid definition of what it is we are all seeking.

Perhaps the endless dance of seeking, experiencing and letting go is the true essence of “love”. While it is true (as Wayne said) that you must first love yourself, perhaps in our world love is a transitory and transitional experience for many of us.

At the risk of sounding like a wack-o, I have been through hypnotic past-life regressions, and it appears that I have been seeking ways to understand and experience love for many lifetimes, both as a male and an female. These lives have focussed on parental love, sisterly love, male-male love, and male-female love. One thing my guide said to me stands out — he said that in this time people are moving through relationships and karma more rapidly than at any other time. While it might have taken an entire lifetime to experience a specific karmic relationship (one which involves working through a certain set of challenges), at this time we move through them at lightning speed.

So perhaps there is no perfect love–and perhaps there is. But perhaps the quest, at this time, is more important than the attainment.

Fear not; I am always ready for attack. Since I began this work, not one woman ever took exception to the manner in which I did it. They were simply happy I was doing the work.

There is no right or wrong way.

It has only ever been men who have attacked me or criticised my soul journey. Some even attacked me physically- I assume because I was exposing too much about men & their trade secrets.

I have learned to prepare myself for it.

It is a uniquely Masculine tradition, to start wars with people who are just trying to do their best in a bloody complicated world.

But this man is not going drop to his knees and beg mercy…

To insinuate I am part of the problem is to attack. And I think you know it. Unless your respose is some kind of simluation. In which case, I would paraphrase Vonnegut and ask you to consider being careful with your simulacrom- you might be taken literally…

I seem to get this ALL the time; men who jump to identify me as ‘THE PROBLEM’, and then hold up their ‘SOLUTION’ to camera.

But you see, an inquiring man is not THE PROBLEM, and I am not setting up shop here. You have no need to feel threatened.

I am in a place of genuine introspection and soul inquiry.

Unfortunately, YOU are part of the problem as I see it; a man who does not listen. This is not an ‘exercise’- this is a genuine exploration. A heartfelt honest desire for enlightenment. If you did not get this- as the other commenters did- then you either have no empathy, or you think this is a place for me to ‘sell my wares’.

It is not.

I am exploring my soul journey toward transcendence, and others have simply taken an interest.

Taking myself out of the ‘problem’, and into the ‘solution’ as you put it.

And I have been flown to the US from Australia by interested parties who see the value of my inquiry, my deconstruction AS I am doing it- whilst inside the process- with a view to taking this inquiry, and shaping it into something of benefit to others.

How that will be done is out of my hands.

I simply keep digging, and hope I don’t dig into others ‘patch’.

The above is merely one of many possibilities I will explore on the way.

So I do not view this as an ‘exercise’. I genuinely wonder ‘why’…

I am not afraid to explore my soulful inquiry in public, rather than hiding it the way I feel, as is my custom.

And one of the inevitable questions I ask, is ‘are men capable of love’, or more properly, ‘am I capable of love’?

Why would you assume this is not a reasonable question?

Of course it is in your interest to suggest men are capable of love. It is obviously your business.

I am not so dependent on this angle.

How do we know all men are capable of love? How do YOU know?

Are you God?

These- and all the other questions you mentioned- are questions I intend to explore along the way as this blog unfolds. How on earth could I possibly cover everything you mentioned in one single blog?

Believe it or not, all the things your mentioned DO NOT just magically appear; they are what is known as ‘part of a process’.

And where I come from, it is OK to ask if you are wrong, and be philosophical; this is also known as part of the process, toward a solution.

We in Australia call it ‘healing’.

I look forward to your response, where you will have another opportunity for free advertising. DAMN, I looked you up!! It worked!