I met Ruth Harris last year through Anne R. Allen’s blog. Ruth is a former editor and publisher, and a multi-published, NY Times bestselling author. Ruth’s engaging storytelling and her cast of complex and unforgettable characters always leaves me sleep deprived and wanting more.
Ruth’s novels are full of sexy, magnetic men. But sexy extends beyond appearances. Ruth tells us why.
The vaunted 6-pack? Meh.
The broad shoulders and small waist? Big effing deal.
The biceps and triceps? The quads and hammies? Don’t bore me.
Lifts weights like an Olympic champ but won’t lift a finger around the house? Surely you jest.
Bulked-up cover boys remind me of Arnold Schwartzenegger and we all know what he was up to. Or else they bring to mind pro athletes—baseball, football, basketball, you name it—with a different baby mama in every city his team plays in.
I have zero interest in a man who devotes hours to himself and “sculpting” his body.
He’s the kind of man I’m going to have to fight for mirror time in the AM, who uses more—and more expensive—“beauty” products than I do, and the kind of man whose self-involvement turns me off, not on.
What turns me on in a man is:
1: Competence— Can he change a tire, fix a leaky faucet? Big plus for sure if he can, but, no, I’m not looking for a handyman. Sometimes I just want the man who knows who to call to get the job done.
2: Humor—Give me a man who can make me laugh—over spilled milk, a bad haircut, a new recipe even the dog won’t eat. He’s the kind of man who can make me smile all the way into the bedroom.
3: Integrity—Introduce me to the man I can trust. The guy who won’t cheat on me, steal my money or turn into a vampire sucking my energy, ambition, goals, dreams is the man who turns me on & keeps me turned on.
4: Savvy—Set me up with the man who knows how to wangle/charm his way into an airline upgrade, can order in a french/spanish/chinese/dominican restaurant, is knowledgeable about finance, insurance and world affairs. That’s a man you can live with for a life time and never once be bored or restless.
5: Smile—Who can resist a guy with the kind of smile that would melt a glacier or even contribute to global warming? Does his smile start with a glint in the eyes, go to the mouth & light up the whole face? Please. Give him my number and Twitter handle.
Oh, and one last thing, I also appreciate a man who can put a load of laundry in the machine, turn it on, unload it and then FOLD THE LAUNDRY AND PUT IT AWAY without fearing his testosterone level will sink lower than a nuclear submarine.
Or the guy who can cook dinner and clean up afterwards without acting like turning on the stove or washing a dish will make his man root shrivel up and fall off.
Spare me the studs. Keep your hunks. You can have those “irresistible” bad boys all the girls seem to love. Just give me a man who appreciates everyday life and knows how to live it.
Okay, what kind of man gets your engine revving? Is he any different from the heroes in your stories? Tell us why.
Ruth is generously offering a fabulous Lucky Seven giveaway! The first seven and the last seven commenters today will receive a copy of one of her e-books! Be sure to leave your email address when commenting!
DECADES, HUSBANDS & LOVERS, LOVE & MONEY, MODERN WOMEN, THE LAST ROMANTICS and HOOKED are all formatted for Kindle or the Kindle App on iPad. DECADES, HUSBANDS & LOVERS and LOVE & MONEY are available on Nook.
Author Dave Thome joins us Friday, April 6th.
Here’s a blurb on one of Ruth’s bestselling books. I’ve read it and highly recommend it.
MODERN WOMEN: A million-copy New York Times Bestseller
Lincky Desmond: She marries Mr. Right—only to risk it all for Mr. Wrong.
Elly McGrath: She is loyal and idealistic but when faced with the ultimate betrayal, will she be able to stand up for herself?
Jane Gresh: Bawdy, talented and determined not to be ignored, she manages to shock the entire country.
Owen Casals: Handsome, successful, magnetic. He marries one, betrays another and makes one of them very, very rich.
“Sharp and stylishly written. Passionate, daring and unconventional.” — Chicago Sun-Times
“FICTION AT ITS BEST!” — New Woman Magazine
Bio: Ruth Harris is a New York Times bestselling author whose books (with Random House, Simon & Schuster, and St.Martin’s Press) have sold millions of copies in hardcover and paperback, been translated into 19 languages, published in 25 countries and selected by the Literary Guild and Book-of-the-Month Club.
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