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Falling in Love on the Page: Writing Convincing Romantic Relationships by Anna Campbell

bride_groom2_THEMEShe’s smitten. He’s besotted. But that’s not a story. Award-winning author Anna Campbell shares her insight on creating believable romance for your characters. 

As a romance writer, I spend my life watching characters fall in love – it’s a fun way to make a living.

But how do you make those tumultuous romantic relationships believable to the reader? I’m sure we’ve all picked up books where the hero and heroine come together at the end, and our principal response is “huh?” or “they’ll be in a divorce court within a year.”

Not how you want people to feel when they reach the last page of a book you’ve written – whether a romance or a story with romantic elements.

Here are a few thoughts on making those falling in love moments convincing – and irresistibly powerful.

Physical attraction is essential in a romance. That doesn’t mean that all your characters have to be model material with flawless Anna Campbell 43970006faces and bodies. In fact, often it’s more interesting if they are normal people. But there needs to be a spark. Perhaps your hero notices your heroine’s beautiful eyes or saucy strut or lovely hair, or your heroine thinks the hero has a nice smile or broad shoulders. The attraction needs to be invincible and inescapable, because when your characters clash, this sexual link makes it impossible for them to break away from each other and seek an easier option.

How you write that physical attraction depends on your characters – and your story. Do you want an instant flare-up, or the slow build from interest to love? Or do you want a coup de foudre moment when your characters finally see what’s been under their noses for so long? Do you want to write a transformation story – always a popular theme – where the ugly duckling hero/heroine undergoes some sort of makeover and suddenly appears in all their glory to dazzle their admirer?

Whatever you do, there needs to be a chemical reaction between these two people. If you’re skilled at writing attraction, this chemical reaction will become incendiary, even in a sweet romance without hot and heavy love scenes. Given the other person is set to be the love of their life, your hero/heroine has to be constantly conscious of presence, appearance, responses, actions, words. The other person needs to be special, unforgettable, and impossible to ignore.

But we all know that lasting relationships – in most cases, there will be some commitment to each other by the end of the story – aren’t based on sexual attraction alone. You need to establish that these people have a mental and/or spiritual affinity that will keep them together when the going gets tough, and will make them fight tooth and nail for their happy ending.

That means your characters should move beyond merely thinking their opposite number is hot, to admiring traits like courage or humor or intelligence or kindness. It’s those inner qualities that will make your characters fall in love with each other – and your readers fall in love with your characters. They also help your readers to believe that this relationship will last, even when the taut tummies have started to sag and those fine eyes have a few lines around them.

One way to make this affinity clear is to create a special language for your hero and heroine so they have private jokes or names for each other. You can also create a private world for your characters by making them refer back to incidents they’ve shared.

You want your readers to believe these two are born to be together. Dialogue establishes the relationship between your hero and heroine more vividly than anything else. It’s no accident that banter is a staple of the romantic comedy genre – that back and forth of smart talk is a precursor to more physical exchanges. Dialogue as foreplay is a great way to illustrate the rapport between your hero and heroine.

To give you an example from a classic romance, in Pride and Prejudice, we know Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet are destined to marry because they’re the two cleverest people in the room, and they get each other’s sense of humor. When Elizabeth falls in love with Darcy, it’s not his fortune or his looks – both of which she’s scorned previously – but his heroic character that wins her heart when he rescues her family from disgrace with no thought of reward.

Another way to build affinity between your characters is to use mirroring techniques. Even very young characters come onto the page with a world view and a personal history. You can create a powerful link between characters when that world view and personal history have something in common. Showing not telling can work particularly well here – it’s a nice trick if the readers see the similarities while the characters are still trying to make sense of these bewildering new feelings.

The common threads between characters can be identical or offer subtle echoes and variations. To give you an example from my first book, Claiming the Courtesan, on the surface the nobly born Duke of Kylemore and humble courtesan Verity Ashton have little in common. But if you dig deeper, both are lone wolves who have had to make hard and occasionally destructive decisions to survive. When the book starts, both are hiding their true selves from a hostile world. The book charts their journey to intimacy and to a recognition that, whatever the barriers of class and fortune, they’re soulmates after all.

In a romantic plot, love is an overwhelmingly powerful force. People need to emerge from the experience of falling in love profoundly changed. If you want your readers to respond strongly to a love story, they have to believe that these characters have undergone a momentous and difficult emotional journey. This is true even in a comedy. If your story has a happy ending, your readers also need to believe that your characters are better, more complete people for the experience, like gold purified by fire.

Obviously I’ve only scratched the surface of what is a massive and very complex topic. But research for this can be fun. Pay close attention to what people do when they fall in love. A wealth of resources surrounds you – books, films, TV, songs, and of course your friends and family, not to mention your own romantic experience.

Readers adore participating in the giddy, heartbreaking, ecstatic dance of love with your hero and heroine, so don’t short-change either your audience or your characters when it comes to the emotional heart of your story.

Is there a scene in a book that convinced you these two people, however unlikely, were meant to be together and will stay together now through thick and thin?


Tempting Mr. TownsendTEMPTING MR. TOWNSEND – February 2016


Fenella, Lady Deerham, has rejoined society after five years of mourning her beloved husband’s death at Waterloo. Now she’s fêted as a diamond of the first water and London’s perfect lady. But beneath her exquisite exterior, this delicate blond beauty conceals depths of courage and passion nobody has ever suspected. When her son and his school friend go missing, she vows to find them whatever it takes. Including setting off alone in the middle of the night with high-handed bear of a man, Anthony Townsend. Will this tumultuous journey end in more tragedy? Or will the impetuous quest astonish this dashing widow with a breathtaking new love, and life with the last man she ever imagined?

And the Beast?

When Anthony Townsend bursts into Lady Deerham’s fashionable Mayfair mansion demanding the return of his orphaned nephew, the lovely widow’s beauty and spirit turn his world upside down. But surely such a refined and aristocratic creature will scorn a rough, self-made man’s courtship, even if that man is now one of the richest magnates in England. Especially after he’s made such a woeful first impression by barging into her house and accusing her of conniving with the runaways. But when Fenella insists on sharing the desperate search for the boys, fate offers Anthony a chance to play the hero and change her mind about him. Will reluctant proximity convince Fenella that perhaps Mr. Townsend isn’t so beastly after all? Or now that their charges are safe, will Anthony and Fenella remain forever opposites fighting their attraction?

Tempting Mr. Townsend is available from Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Smashwords.


Bio: Anna Campbell has written ten multi award-winning historical romances for Grand Central Publishing and Avon HarperCollins and her work is published in seventeen languages. Her most recent full-length novel is A Scoundrel by Moonlight, released April 2015 from Grand Central Forever. She’s currently working on the Dashing Widows series of e-novellas, with Tempting Mr. Townsend (book 2) out on 27th February.

Anna lives on the beautiful east coast of Australia where she writes full-time. To learn more about Anna, visit her website or connect with her via Facebook and Twitter.









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10 Responses to “Falling in Love on the Page: Writing Convincing Romantic Relationships by Anna Campbell”

  1. Thanks, Anna.
    Very informative, as usual.

    Posted by Suzi Love | March 7, 2016, 4:42 pm
  2. Hi Anna,

    I know I’m not alone when it comes to being short-changed by a story’s ending where the characters suddenly decide they’re right for each other in the next to the last chapter.

    It’s important to me that the H/H develop respect for each other because that in itself is telling of their character.

    Posted by Jennifer Tanner | March 7, 2016, 5:45 pm
  3. Jennifer, you’re so right! After all, these people are looking forward to a lifetime of happiness – we hope! Thanks for having me as RU’s guest today.

    Posted by Anna Campbell | March 7, 2016, 6:09 pm
  4. So sorry I’m late! I LOVED A Scoundrel by Moonlight – no surprise, since I love all Anna’s books! I’ve already bookmarked this because Anna is a master at creating powerful romantic relationships. Great to see you at RU – I miss our middle of the night talks, back when I stayed up all night writing and then went on Facebook and found my Australian friends all wide awake. These days my 10-month-old granddaughter wipes me out – she’s walking, practically running, and she is curious about everything!

    I’m looking forward to reading Tempting Mr. Townsend – and to seeing that gorgeous cover up close!

    Posted by Becke Martin Davis | March 7, 2016, 10:40 pm
    • Becke, how lovely you enjoyed my Scoundrel! Thank you. Hope you have fun with Mr. Townsend. Oh, I think back fondly to our talks – and to running into you at conferences. I really hoped I’d make RWA this year but the timing just didn’t work out for me. One day! You’ve got a good excuse for getting some sleep! 😀

      Posted by Anna Campbell | March 8, 2016, 12:20 am
  5. Evening Anna!

    I’m late as well and love your books too! Jennifer got me started on them (thanks!) and the covers are just as gorgeous as the stories inside. =)

    I too have read those unfortunate books where the H and H get together and I think why?? Those books usually end up donated or thrown away…I want the full experience! =)

    Thanks for posting with us Anna. it’s always a pleasure to have you here!


    Posted by Carrie Peters | March 7, 2016, 11:05 pm
    • Carrie, thanks for having me at RU. I always love visiting here. And thank you for saying such nice things about the books – and to Jen for passing on the word! She’s a star. I want to see that developing bond between the H/H – hot or not, it’s that emotional link that makes romance such a powerful genre for me.

      Posted by Anna Campbell | March 8, 2016, 12:22 am
  6. Great article, Anna. Romantic development has always been something I’ve had to draft and draft before it appears on the page and to be honest, i’ve always wondered why it doesn’t come naturally, lol. This shows me why 🙂

    Posted by robyn enlund | March 10, 2016, 5:45 pm


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