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Oh…You Write Romance? by Jules Bennett

Today we welcome back national best-selling contemporary romance author JULES BENNETT, tackling a topic that hits close to home.

I get this question so often, but the tone of the inquirer is always different. I either get the person who wrinkles their nose and whispers “romance” like it’s a dirty word or the avid reader whose eyes light up and they are thrilled to meet an author.
Whether you’re published or yet to be discovered (don’t give up), romance authors get the same questions. All. The. Time. Sometimes the answers can be simple, other times they can be downright awkward. I tend to fall into the awkward category…such is my life.

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As much as you want to be snarky or sarcastic, try to remember those manners your mama taught you and stay professional. Complain later to your reader/writer friends who *get* you.
Meeting new people can be entertaining or exhausting, depending on your mood. You can almost predict the question before it is asked. I’m getting better with my answers…I’ve had years of practice for these quizzes, after all.

Most instances typically begin like this:
And what do you do for a living?

Please, before you reply, make sure to look at their face. There’s nothing like witnessing that first expression that cannot be masked when you answer “romance writer.”
*crickets* That reply is always followed by crickets and wide eyes as they gather their thoughts for a proper response.
The next question varies depending on who you’re talking to, but the list is pretty predictable.

Does your cover have Fabio?

Please, stop talking. No, really. Stop.

I bet your job has fun research *wink, wink*
Please, try to control yourself and not roll your eyes at this childish statement. It’s difficult, I know. Smile, nod your head, and agree that research is quite fun. I’ve researched female pilots, seeing-eye dogs, resorts in tropical locations, organic farming, and the list goes on and on. Don’t miss a beat discussing all of your research. It will shut them up every time.

I bet your husband likes your job? *more winking and a nudge*

Actually, my husband does love my job. I’m able to work from home which makes me happy and he does love a happy wife. Seriously, I’m not even getting into the ridiculousness of the joke you attempted – and failed – to make.

Beyond the obvious sex questions (because people who have never read romance are quick to criticize and truly have no clue what they’re talking about), there are the money questions. In my opinion, those are tackier than the sex questions.
Do you actually make money selling those books?

“Those books.” As if the genre is shunned from the public. Why, yes, I make money. Thank you for your concern, but I’m always taking donations. Make sure you put two T’s in my name on the check.

I never would’ve guessed you write romance. I would have thought children’s books.

If that’s a crack on my height of 5’ 0”, I’m not laughing.

But, have you thought about another genre?

Why? I love romance and making people fight for happiness and love. Is there another genre that can guarantee me a happy ending? I’m quite happy in this world, thank you.

I’ve always wanted to write a book.

Then. Do. It. You are the only one standing in your way. Nobody else will live out your dreams. Ignore the reasons you shouldn’t and go for it!

Oh, you write? Let me tell you a story.

Please, don’t tell me. Write it yourself. Do you even know how many people I already have living in my head? There’s no way anyone else can fit…unless you have a story about Ryan Reynolds, Bradley Cooper, or Robert Downey Jr., then I can make room.

There’s no greater job in the world than being a romance writer. The readers are loyal and amazing, the other authors are fabulous and always encouraging, and I get to play make-believe all day and get paid for it.


I understand people are curious by nature, so I’ll answer any questions whether they be rude, funny, awkward, whatever. I’m easily entertained and always looking for more character material. 🙂

Join us Wednesday when our guest will be best-selling author LORI WILDE.




National bestselling author Jules Bennett is a former salon owner turned full time author. Considering she met her husband at the age of fourteen and they’ve been together since, Jules knows a thing or two about romance and happily ever after. She and her husband live in the Midwest with their two young children. When Jules isn’t creating emotional, witty stories, she’s spending time with her family, working out or procrastinating on social media. She loves to hear from readers. You can connect with her through Facebook, Twitter, or her website:



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15 Responses to “Oh…You Write Romance? by Jules Bennett”

  1. My fave is when someone says, “I’ve always wanted to write a book. Maybe I’ll sit down this weekend and pound it out. Wait—is that a cardinal?” Thanks for the morning chuckle!

    Posted by Heather Heyford | April 11, 2016, 8:04 am
  2. I love this post, Jules. I still remember a talk Eloisa James gave at RWA National in 2009. She said her mother was always asking her when she was going to write a “real” book.

    I think everyone who writes romance, whether published or unpublished, has had to field these types of questions. When people who’ve never read a romance complain about the genre, I tell myself it’s their loss, but it still annoys the heck out of me when people diss romance or make cutesy remarks about it.

    I’d love to hear some of the responses you all have made when asked the types of questions Jules mentioned.

    Posted by Becke Martin Davis | April 11, 2016, 8:50 am
  3. The one I hate is “You mean like 50 Shades?” as if that’s the only book on the shelves.

    Posted by Carol Opalinski | April 11, 2016, 9:17 am
  4. You should hear the comments I get, being a man (male) writing romance.

    Posted by Brian | April 11, 2016, 12:52 pm
  5. My favorite is when my father (my own father!) asks me why, instead of writing paranormal romance, I don’t write books like J.K. Rowling, because then I’d at least earn some money. I, honestly, don’t even know where to start with that one beyond, “Um, thanks for the suggestion, Dad. I never thought of that.”

    Posted by Meredith Bond | April 11, 2016, 1:22 pm
    • Yeah, don’t you love the way people either think all writers are millionaires OR that we write for our own entertainment.

      I can’t even count the number of people who suggested I write a book FOR them – they’d give me the plot ideas and I could whip it into publishable form for them. (I haven’t been able to do that with my OWN stories!)

      I’m published in fiction, and I’ve even more people ask me to write books for them – their name would be on the cover and they’d get the paychecks, but I’d have the honor of organizing their ideas and typing them up.

      I never know whether to laugh or cry when this happens!

      Posted by Becke Martin Davis | April 11, 2016, 7:08 pm
  6. I’ve been pretty lucky. Everyone who knows I write romance respects my genre. It’s being at home that makes them kind of curious. “What do you do all day?” is the biggie. LOL.

    Posted by Mercy | April 11, 2016, 3:24 pm
  7. The comment about writing children’s books is odd…

    I also get the “you mean like 50 shades?” comment.

    I love this one: “How about I give you an idea, you write it, and we split the profits? *eyeroll* Everyone thinks they’re soooo original, but I’ve heard that one a thousand times!

    Posted by Laurie Evans | April 11, 2016, 11:48 pm
  8. I get every one of those. Every single one. Fabulous answers!

    Posted by Kayelle Allen | April 12, 2016, 6:12 pm


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